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Thursday, October 8, 2009

8 Habits That Wreck Your Relationship

#1. Having an affair with his "potential"
Wanting your man to be the best version of himself is admirable, but approaching his looks and personality with "Extreme Makeover" ambition will do little more than erode his self-esteem and leave you both frustrated and resentful. "If you and your partner believe that love means acceptance, pushing him to change and criticizing him is going to send him the opposite message. What he hears is 'you aren't good enough,'" says Nina Atwood, M.Ed., L.P.C., author of "Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid."
How to rebuild: This is where the old 80-20 rule can be used to the benefit of both of you. Spend at least 80 percent of your time together letting your partner know all the things you adore and appreciate about him, so that when you mention something you don't like, it doesn't feel like another item on a long list of failures.
More Glamour:#2. Major mood swings
We're living in some pretty anxiety-inducing times, and when life takes a stressful turn, it's not uncommon for couples to start taking out that stress on each other. While the occasional mood swing can -- and should -- be forgiven, being in a relationship with someone whose bad moods outnumber her good ones can make a man run for cover. Wouldn't you do the same?
How to rebuild: The next time you catch yourself taking a downturn, take a moment to consider what kind of impact your moods are having on your man and the relationship. "If a woman is too moody, we start to walk on eggshells because we just don't want to deal with the drama," says Matt, 31, of San Diego.
#3. Gossip
Talking to pals about your love life is a normal part of friendship, but if you're calling your BFF, your sister, and your mom every time your man pisses you off, you're not only going to wind up embarrassed when the storm passes, you'll also find yourself in a relationship with someone who feels violated and judged. "As a couple, private information should stay private or you risk damaging your reputation as a couple, which in turn may isolate you from others and sever your relationship," says Dan Schawbel, personal branding expert and author of "Me: 2.0." Remember that word of mouth is a powerful force, and it can hurt your reputation if your mate or others brand you as untrustworthy."
How to rebuild: The next time you log on to his computer and find an improper download, resist the urge to get on the phone and vent to your top five. Instead, sit down and talk things out with the one person who can help you work through it. If you're not sure how to approach him about a certain topic, sit down and write him a letter. (Helpful hint: Sit on it for 24 hours to make sure it says what you really want to say and isn't just filled with angry words and blame.)
#4. Melodrama
If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. "Men have a tendency to really like low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationships," says Kristian, 35, of New York City. "We're pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when you need to work so hard to make someone happy and calm them down every day."
How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner Heidi Montag moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.).
#5. "Mom-ing" him
Your man loves his mama and he loves you, but when you're the one telling him to stop playing Guitar Hero, scoffing at his lack of manners, or informing him he can't go out with his pals because he has a "big day tomorrow," it's anything but appealing. He'll not only resent that you're trying to control him, but he'll also likely do what all children do when they're being reprimanded -- rebel. "Scolding your mate creates an unhealthy dynamic of parent-child relationship, which automatically puts your partner into a child role and you into the role of mom," says Jeannine Estes, M.A, a marriage and family therapist and author of "Relationships in the Raw." "Children often do the opposite when they feel as if they don't have a choice, and this is similar for couples."
How to rebuild: "Instead of scolding or telling him what to do or not do, try to ask for your needs in a clear and respectful way and avoid using the 'mother' tone," says Estes. "Share with your partner the importance of your needs rather than demanding or scoffing at what he has or hasn't done right. Also, scolding him like you are his mother can put you in a parent role, carrying the relationship without any assistance or partnership."
#6. Too much together time
Spending time with your guy is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there's a big difference between bonding and being joined at the hip. "Many men are attracted to secure, independent women," says Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D, a New York City psychologist. "Once in relationships, women may tend to become more dependent, to demand more time and attention of their partners. This can represent a problem, as often men need more space than women."
How to rebuild: Remind your guy of the independent and fabulous woman he was initially attracted to by indulging in your favorite pastimes and enjoying your friends without him every once in a while. By flashing your independence, you'll not only give him a chance to miss you but also have interesting things to share with him when you meet up.
#7. Jealousy
He lets you know how much he loves you constantly, but that doesn't stop you from checking his phone when he's in the shower or sending every pretty girl he talks to eye-daggers. Although a tiny bit of jealousy in a relationship is normal, accusing your man of cheating and questioning his whereabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated, and insulted. "Jealousy in a relationship, or even personally, is the spiritual equivalent of dumping hydrochloric acid on the person," says 33-year-old Marc from Los Angeles. "Just sit back and prepare for the disintegration."
How to rebuild: Unless your man has said or done things to make you suspicious, your jealousy is more about your relationship with yourself than you two as a couple. Back away from his computer and check out your own history. Were you betrayed in the past? Did you grow up in a household where the fidelity vows were broken? There might be ways in which you are allowing unresolved issues from your past to dictate your present behavior. If you don't feel you can overcome the green monster on your own, don't be afraid to reach out to a qualified counselor who can help you identify the sources of your insecurity and work through them.
#8. Getting too comfortable
In the beginning of a relationship, both parties make sure to look and act their best, but as time moves on, the sweatpants come out and routine takes over. "People tend to get lazy in their relationships, and while it's good to be comfortable, no one wants to be boring or to be bored," says Lissa Coffey, author of "What's Your Dosha, Baby? Discover the Vedic Way for Compatibility in Life and Love."
How to rebuild: Men love to be seduced and romanced as much as we do, and part of what makes the courtship phase of relationships so fun is the experience of uncovering the mystery of another and trying new things together. "When a woman stops making an effort to look nice for her man and expects him to take care of all the stuff in the romance department, a man begins to feel taken for granted and thinks that she doesn't care about impressing him anymore," says Brian, 30, of New York City. Show your guy he's still worth the effort by surprising him with a break from the ratty T-shirt you wear to bed, a sweet note, or planning a special night out for him "just because." He'll not only appreciate it, he'll also reciprocate -- and that's a give and take to get excited about. matrimony


Friday, September 25, 2009

Matrimonial sites leads in online advertisement Market

New Delhi: Personal or matrimonial websites lead the online display advertisements campaigns in India in the period between June-August 2009, comprising 13 percent of the total online campaigns.

According to research firm Nielsen's Online AdRelevance June-Aug 2009 report, personal or matrimonial sites released 497 online display advertisements from a total of 3,778 advertisements, amounting to 13 percent of the total number of online campaigns. They were followed by travel booking services and education sector, as they accounted eight percent of the total number of online campaigns released in the period.



In the personal or matrimonial sector, Consim Info was the top advertiser accounting for more than half of the advertising activity. MakeMyTrip was the leader in the travel category contributing 23 percent to the total online advertisement activity in the sector. In the education sector, Amity University led the education advertising space at 14 percent.

"Display advertising is expected to substantially expand in India as internet penetration accelerates and given the lower costs involved in advertising online. Keeping tabs on advertisement spending and campaigns in this space will definitely help marketers to plan their strategies accordingly," said Karthik Nagarajan, Associate Director, Online Division, The Nielsen Company.

Monday, August 31, 2009

Taking a closer look at Telugu Wedding

Vivahabandhan A wedding is a very special celebration full of mirth, happiness, good natured traditions and customs that has been followed since ages. Telugu marriage is no different, with celebrations laced with varied ceremonies and rituals commencing few days prior to the actual wedding day. Telugu people are simple and their customs, traditions and rituals are unique and enjoyable with equal emphasis on religious celebrations and fun filled customs for both bride and groom’s family.

In traditional Telugu matrimony, it’s the elder person of the family who tries to make a match between the prospective bride and groom within the caste and community. The maternal uncle or the brother of the bride has a very important role to play from the bride’s side during marriage. The main customs that highlight the Telugu wedding ceremony are Muhurtam, Pendlikoothru, Gauri Pooja, Kanyadaan, Manglasutra and Saptapadi. The Telugu wedding customs begins with Mangala Snaanam or Pendlikoothru where both the bride and groom have to take auspicious bath smeared with a paste of oil and turmeric carried out in their respective home. Both the families then perform aarti praying God to bless the bride and groom for a successful life ahead. Before the actual wedding a Gowri and Ganesh puja is held at the mandapam. One of the essential Hindu wedding rituals Kanyadaan follows with the girl’s family handing her hand to the groom for the rest of her life. The bride is brought to the mandap by her maternal uncle as she sits in a bamboo basket. Until the custom of Kanyadaan is performed, the bride and groom are refrained from seeing each other with a curtain as a partition. The bride’s parents then wash the groom’s feet considering him god’s ‘avatar’. As the priest chants slokas, the couple performs the ritual Jeelakarra-Bellamu smearing a paste of cumin seeds and jaggery on each other’s hands. The groom ties mangalsutra around the bride’s neck. Bride and groom exchange garlands in Kanya Daan Akshata and receive blessings from elders. The bride and groom walk seven steps together around the fire as the priest chants mantras in the Saptapadi ritual. In the Sthaalipaakam ritual the groom decorates the feet of the bride with silver toe rings.

The wedding is generally a grand affair and great detailing is done while choosing the wedding dress and jewelry. Telugu Brides wears a red, maroon or some bright coloured saree on the wedding day and is ensembled with heavy jewelry making her the cynosure of all eyes. Telugu grooms wear traditional Indian dress dhoti, Kurta or Sherwani. Specialty of Telugu wedding is pachadi made from neem leaves, banana, jaggery, sugar cane and tamarind. The wedding feast also includes varieties of Rice, Sambar, Curry and Sweets.

Telugu wedding customs and traditions don’t come to an end with the wedding but continue to be performed a day after the wedding with a number of other rituals as the bride begins her new life in grooms house.

Vivahabandhan.com, a fast upcoming Indian Matrimonial website, offers online Telugu matrimonial classifieds. This matrimony site enables the user to create a free profile in Telugu matrimony and search for eligible brides and grooms. Get the best matrimonial in India on exclusive Vivahabandhan.com matrimonial site.

Monday, June 22, 2009

Keys to happy marriage (Matrimonials)

Love and life are to be shared together! In a marriage, a couple feel varied kinds of emotions towards each other ranging from love, care, pleasure, passion and also anger, frustration, possessiveness at times. Through the various ups and downs of emotions, one has to hold onto one’s partner come what may. After the rain comes the rainbow, so keep hope that bad times will pass and happiness will fill your life again. In a marriage, responsibility also creeps in towards your partner, as you share love, care, and compassion while discovering something new about each other everyday.

It’s important that you express your love so that your mate feels cared and wanted. Compliments, concern, hugs, holding hands, flowers, gifts, and phone calls are some easy ways to show your love towards the other, Find more info at VivahaBandhan, A matrimonials websites.

Your behavior towards the other person should always be warm. Be polite and gentle towards your partner. It is necessary that there is effort from both sides to understand each other. Try to spend as much quality time with your life partner, sharing your thoughts talking. At times only your physical presence will make all the difference.

Sharing your thoughts and experiences will help you make your spouse comfortable. Learn about each other’s taste, choice and preference as much as you can. You will need to arrange your life around each other.

A smile on your face can make whole lot of difference. It’s a great expression of happiness. You can sail through the oddest situation on the strength of a smile.

Understanding and consideration are pillars of support in a marriage. Together both of you can share responsibilities and decisions in complete harmony. Don’t let ego be a hurdle in your relationship and sort out differences as it is important that you share what is in your mind if you don’t want to strain your relationship.

You have vowed to give equal love and respect to each other in a marriage, so it is important that you are transparent in your relation. As a couple you can almost share everything under the sun and so it is better not to keep secrets away from each other.

To make your life complete, to make your search easy, to make you find your ideal partner, VivahaBandhan - a comprehensive matrimonial sites is here for you! Its one of the benchmark marriage websites, with its user-friendly nature enabling you to explore, choose and unite with your soul mate in just few easy clicks. This matrimony website for privileged Indians, with the aid of advanced and in-depth research technology, understands your needs, helping you find relevant matches better than others. Just at the click of fingertips, you can get to the person who can change your life…forever! Register now

Premier online matrimonial website Vivahabandhan is a one stop indian matrimonials destination. This matrimonial portal has a collection of fresh updated profiles and in just three easy steps - login, search and contact you can reach your preferred partner. Now you can look forward to twogatherness!
Other Matrimony Sites in India: http://www.jeevansathi.com/ , http://www.shaadi.com/index.php , http://www.bharatmatrimony.com/

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Search for Marriage Life Partner Ends at VivahaBandhan.com

I have been asked to do a review of vivahabandhan.com, a matrimonial Site. Since I have been in the Marriage and wedding business for quite sometime,

My first overall impression was that, the website was very easy to navigate as all the important links sit at the top of the page and the nicest thing was that registration took me less than 1 min. Most important of all the the matrimony website is 100% free. I just can’t believe that matrimony can be this CHEAP ;-p. This includes premium offerings such as chat features, contact details. The reason being that this website was created, according to the CEO, Asif, out of frustration with the more streamlined Matchmaking websites that only care for people’s money with no serious intention to assist people to find their soul partner. Now with this website, you can spend as much time as you want to chat, message and get involved in its website with no time and function limitations whatsoever until you find your pricesless partner or true love as its domain name suggests.


The nice thing about VivahaBandhan is its Match Making function. This function works according to a preset categories such as age and marital status just like you have on myspace and friendster. and also according t horoscope/ astrology You can pick a partner from your own country. Amongst heavily populated profiles are those from U.S., Canada, UK, Arab Countries, Singapore, Malysia, Australia and New Zealand while from Asia are China, India and Thailand. But rest assured, the website is going to gain popularity from time to time and for all you know you would have 10,000’s of people registered from your neighbourhood or somebody across the border might just pick you out from the crowd. Do you ever imagine or fancy starting a new life overseas? Upon overall review, the strongest points of the website, which can easily distinguish it from the rest, to me are as follows:

* The many wonderful profiles that it has whom I think can be considered as very interesting. To find out who these profiles are, you may click on the Advanced link.
* Innovative profile search
* free matrimonial search
* free registration and many more
* Meet your Dream Life Partner HERE WITH SIMILAR KIND OF INTERESTS

To increase number of subscribers, I do believe that Asif can offer free ebook on Marraige and relationships and then follow up with these people through emails by showing latest matched profiles from vivahabandhan.com’s database (Direct email marketing). This will definitely help to attract people back to the website and potentially persuade them to fill in a complete profile for other users to check out.
Nevertheless, there’s nothing to lose to register on vivahabandhan.com. So why not go there now and sign up? It’s 100% FREE!

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Interested in Franchising? Join Vivahabandhan and Start Earning Money

VivahaBandhan is a fastest growing matrimonial website and intend to be the leader in online as well as offline matrimonial business. We have thousands of unique visitors visiting daily from all major search engines like Google, Yahoo,MSN etc.. are coming from to search there life partner or suitable match for themselves.We would be happy to have you as our Premium associate.

offers you a tried-and-true business model that cuts everyone a slice of the pie. We are pleased to offer you information regarding our unique franchise program and how you too can become a part of the matrimonial business and share the industry revenue. We are appointing franchise in every major city in India.

The requirements for becoming a franchise are very simple. An individual who is determined to make good money with honest efforts, very keen to support people regarding their matrimonial issues having good social network. The concept revolves around motivating the eligible and interested candidates to register at matrimonial services and become a Paid member.

We welcome your interest in our franchise program. If you would like to explore some of the foregoing points in more detail and are really interested to apply for franchise then look further than Vivahabandhan Matrimonials

Monday, February 23, 2009

Matrimonial Profile Listings

1. I want to save a profile. What should I do?
Ans. You can save a profile to refer it later. For this you just have to click on ?Save? button in
the appropriate member record which will be displayed on the search page. This feature is only
available to premium members. You can maintain a list of saved profiles in ?Favorite
Profiles? section. This is purely for your reference and cannot be viewed by anyone else.

2. Can I share a profile with my family?
Ans. Yes you can! It's really easy to forward the profiles of your interest online with family and
friends in VivahaBandhan. What you should do is to click on the ?Forward? link, add the email
address of the person you want to send it to, along with the subject, and we'll do the rest. This
feature is only available to premium members. You can maintain a list of "Forwarded profiles"
section .

3. I don't want to receive any messages from a particular member. What can I do?
Ans. If you do not wish to be contacted by a particular member you can use ?Ignore? feature.
By applying the "Ignore" feature to a member's profile, you prevent the member from sending
you any kind of interests or Personalized messages.
 
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